I have come to understand how useless it is to dwell on the whys, what ifs, and if onlys, for which there will likely be given no answers in mortality. To receive the Lord's comfort, we must exercise faith. The questions "why me?" "why our family?" "why now?" are usually unanswerable questions. These questions detract from our spirituality and can destroy our faith. We need to spend our time and energy building our faith by turning to the Lord and asking for strength to overcome the pains and trials of this world and to endure to the end for greater understanding.