I've tried several different
times, several different ways to get the kids to make goals
and accomplish those goals, with rewards, and stickers, and
all sorts of different things. And it just never worked
out for the long term. So when I had this prayer in
my heart of "What can I do?" and I asked--that's the whole
thing is President Nelson has asked us to seek personal
revelation--I just got that prompting and literally the
vision board in my head: This will work. So I would say, you know, have
that prayer in your heart, search and look, and
then take it to the Lord and see what personal revelation
comes to you and your family, because there's a way for
everyone to do this program. It will look a little bit
different for everyone, and that's OK because
we're all just trying to make our way back to Christ. I think the more that you allow
them that power in their lives to be the motivation, so much
of it comes from inside of them. It's that switch of
thinking that we have to be the ones that
are motivating, we are the ones
that are rewarding, or we are the ones that
do that as parents, and realizing that this is
something bigger than us and that, in so many ways, the
things that the kids develop, and learn, and grow into
is the reward in itself, that they feel that and then
that becomes the driving force behind why
they're setting goals is because they feel the
Holy Ghost with them, and they feel their
Savior near them. They have to discover
that on their own. It can't be something
that you force or even try to convince them of. You just have to help them,
and support them, and encourage them to set goals and to push
themself because otherwise, they're not going to get the
experience, the relationship with our Heavenly Father. They're not going to have all of
that, if you try to push them. It has to come in
their own time. We have to be
self-directed in our lives. You know, the
scripture says we need to act and not be acted upon. So this new initiative
is teaching kids how to act for themselves
and proactively move towards what's
important to them and what's important
to Heavenly Father. And so this is what we're
trying to help our kids do is become more self-directed,
more connected to Him, so that they're making the
right kinds of decisions for their lives.