This presentation was given at the BYU Women’s Conference on May 4, 2023.

Sister Rebecca L. Craven was called as a Second Counselor in the Young Women General Presidency of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in March 2018.

Sister Craven’s parents joined the Church when she was four years old, while her father, a career Army officer, was stationed at Fort Bliss, Texas.

She received a bachelor’s degree in Interior Design from Brigham Young University.

Sister Craven and her husband are the parents of five children and have 18 grandchildren.

Most recently, Sister Craven was an ordinance worker in the Bountiful Utah Temple. She also served with her husband when he was president of the North Carolina Charlotte Mission. We look forward to hearing Sister Craven's message today.

Good morning, sisters. Sister Craig and I are so happy to see you here today. Doesn't it feel so good to be together?

The topic we’re addressing is one that we believe we all relate to. I know, at least, I do. I am painfully aware of my weakness and my weaknesses,

and I am so certain that I have many more that I'm just not quite willing

to ask Heavenly Father to show me right now.

But what I love about our Father in Heaven is that He is not fixated on our weakness or what we can or cannot do.

He is focused on our progress. He is focused on us.

It's important to understand that weakness and sin are not the same thing.

Sin is willfully disobeying God's commandments or failing to act righteously despite knowing truth.

Sin is a choice that takes us away from God.

Weakness, in contrast, is a condition of being mortal.

It's a lack of ability or strength or skill. And it's part of each of us in very unique and individual ways.

Just remember, we came to Earth knowing absolutely nothing.

And isn’t it wonderful that we are here? Just think of all that you have learned.

We wanted this mortal experience where we could acquire knowledge and learn through a variety of experiences how to make good choices and grow to become like our heavenly parents. Unlike sin,

weakness can bring us closer to God.

We learn in the book of Ether chapter 12 that the Lord gave us weakness in the hope that we would become humble enough and teachable enough for Him to transform our weak places into strongholds.

This growth comes line upon line until some day we reach perfection. But sisters, this will not happen in this life. So we can just breathe.

Elder Jeffrey R. Holland stated, “If we persevere,

then somewhere in eternity our refinement will be finished and complete—which is the New Testament meaning of perfection.”

But the Lord doesn't wait for that transformation to be finished before giving us important responsibilities. In fact,

He uses us to accomplish His work in our weaknesses, with our weaknesses, and despite our weaknesses. Somehow He trusts us right now in our current condition.

Have you ever considered your weakness to be a gift from God to promote humility and growth?

How can knowing that change your perspective of who you are and who God knows you can become?

I recently became friends with a remarkable 14-year-old young woman from Colorado. Her name is Preslee.

I first became acquainted with Preslee when I heard an inspiring message that she shared on an app that supports our Come, Follow Me study. With Preslee’s permission, I'd like to share her message with you.

Hi guys. It’s me again. Preslee from Windsor, Colorado.

Isn’t she amazing? Preslee was born with cerebral palsy,

and her disability restricts many of her physical capabilities, including her ability to walk.

Now, if Preslee chose to,

she could spend her energy absorbed in comparisons

like, “Why can’t I run like you?

Why is your handwriting easier to read than mine? Why can’t I dress myself,

take ballet lessons, or play soccer like you?

Why was I given this particular challenge? It seems so much harder than yours.”

Of course, Preslee wishes she could do more, and I'm sure there are moments or even days filled with tears.

But Preslee chooses not to let her physical weakness overshadow the strength of her beautiful spiritual gifts or impede her capacity to grow.

She understands that the mortal weakness of her body does not determine her divine destiny. I love how Preslee testifies that even with the uncertainty of her future, she has nothing to worry about.

She has not quit, and she hasn’t slowed down.

She continues to move forward in her faith in Jesus Christ and His Atonement

by placing her trust in Him and His promise.

“If they have faith in me,

then will I make weak things become strong unto them.”

Preslee’s motto? “I can do hard things.” And she does.

Like Preslee, we each face uncertainty and challenges.

It's part of our earthly journey, and so is weakness.

But don’t forget, weakness is mortal. But like Preslee, we are divine.

One of the greatest oppositions to moving forward, notwithstanding our weakness is Satan himself.

To stop the work of the Lord from progressing,

Satan campaigns diligently to stop us from progressing,

and He can be pretty good at it. If he can break our inner spirit, bring doubt into our mind, destroy our confidence, or undermine our divine identity, our growth can be stunted. For the most part

we know our own weak spots. And Satan knows that we know them.

Thus he capitalizes on our insecurities by endeavoring to change our view about our worth. For instance, rather than seeing our God-given weakness as a space to grow,

we begin to view it as an impassable barrier. Soon, feelings of hopelessness, inferiority, and worthlessness creep in.

We quit seeing the things we do imperfectly as a failure, like, “Oh, I failed,” and start believing I am a failure.

We no longer see things that we're doing wrong as a mistake.

Like, “Wow, I made a mistake.” But embrace his lie that I am a mistake.

This type of belief leads to the most catastrophic and crippling form of identity crisis.

It prompts additional feelings like “I am broken, I am nothing.

I am invisible. I am not ... whatever enough. I am stuck. I am alone.”

Sisters, we cannot bury ourselves in this murky propaganda of the adversary. In all of our weakness, we are stronger than he is.

We are daughters of divine parentage.

Our covenants give us power to overcome such deception.

The challenge, however, is remembering who we are every single day.

Now let's look at how Heavenly Father treats us in our weakness

and even in our mistakes. He forgives. He assures. He encourages. He inspires. He comforts. He strengthens. With faith and trust in Jesus Christ,

we are neither stuck nor alone.

He invites us to get in the yoke with Him, where He will help us move forward, even if it's only a few inches at a time.

When I was younger, I used to visualize myself moving through life

on this upward line or slope.

And that’s just the way I remember my Sunday School teachers drawing the plan of salvation on the chalkboard.

The more I thought I was doing okay,

the more I felt like I was going to make it to heaven.

But as soon as an unkind word slipped out of my mouth or I got angry or impatient, I felt myself slide all the way down that slope and hit rock bottom every single time.

It was as if all the things that I was doing right had been erased,

and I had to start everything all over again.

I became the failure, and I was confident that I could never be good enough to make it to the celestial kingdom.

And it was depressing. Now, looking back, I can clearly see how I was caught in Satan's pattern of demoralization.

But my life changed when I began to understand the doctrine of Christ and how to apply it in my life. I found hope, encouragement, and light.

The doctrine of Christ is the Lord’s pattern of change and growth.

It begins with faith in Jesus Christ and His Atonement. By placing our faith and focus on the Savior, we are prompted to grow and make modifications in our lives to become more like Him.

We want to repent and grow and change. President Russell M. Nelson said,

“When we choose to repent, we choose to change.”

And as we choose to repent, our desire to make and keep covenants with God increases. We choose to be baptized and receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.

Then the Holy Ghost inspires us to make additional covenants in the temple and endure to the end. Enduring to the end means changing to the end. And so we repeat this continuous cycle of growth throughout our lives.

As we continue to apply the doctrine of Christ, we receive His grace,

which is the enabling power and spiritual healing offered through the mercy and love of Jesus Christ. “The grace of God helps us every day.

It strengthens us to do [those things] we could not do on our own.

The Lord promised that if we humble ourselves before Him and have faith in Him, His grace will help us overcome all our personal weaknesses.” As I continue to follow the pattern of the doctrine of Christ, I began to recognize the good I was doing and not only the failures that seemed to be continually destroying my confidence.

I felt empowered. I started to see how each day I could try and be a little better. And when I did give in to weakness,

I didn't feel myself tumbled the entire way to the ground. Instead of beating myself up,

I picked myself up where I left off and tried to do better the next time.

I grew to love the cherished gift of repentance.

This scripture found in Alma 34, verse 31, is one of my favorites about repentance.

“If ye will repent and harden not, your hearts, immediately shall the great plan of redemption be brought about unto you.”

The word immediately is significant.

It does not mean that we will be immediately forgiven, because sometimes that takes time.

But when we approach the Lord with a humble and repentant heart,

immediately He will begin to work within us and the blessings of His Atonement will flow into our lives.

That is a powerful and reassuring promise.

We all make mistakes and we all need to repent every day.

We cannot become perfect in mortality, but we can be headed in that direction.

We can seek to improve each day, showing the Lord our effort to become a little more like Him. Our beloved prophet taught: “Because the Savior,

through His infinite Atonement, redeemed each of us from our weakness, mistakes, sin, and because He experienced every pain,

worry, and burden you have ever had,

then as you truly repent and seek His help, you can rise above this present precarious world. ...

Overcoming the world is not an event that happens in a day or two.

It happens over a lifetime as we repeatedly embrace the doctrine of Christ.

We cultivate faith in Jesus Christ by repenting daily and keeping covenants that endow us with power.

We stay on the covenant path and are blessed with spiritual strength,

personal revelation, and the ministering of angels.

Living the doctrine of Christ can produce the most powerful, virtuous cycle, creating spiritual momentum in our lives.”

I admit that I occasionally migrate into that space where I am the failure.

It can be really easy to do. And for whatever reason I feel weakest when I'm fasting.

I attended a sacrament meeting not too long ago in a local ward and I happened to be fasting and feeling particularly vulnerable.

As I looked over the congregation, I beheld a mass of faithful members who had come to partake of the sacrament and worship together. They radiated this light and goodness, and I was so grateful to be with them.

But then out of the blue,

that light that I had been drawn to suddenly made my light seem very dim.

Feelings of total inadequacy quickly and completely filled me both body and spirit. I felt so small. And I could not contain my tears.

And I was embarrassed. And so I closed my eyes as if I was praying,

just hoping that nobody would notice.

And since my eyes were already closed,

I did begin praying mightily for reassurance and strength.

And then the sweetest sound began flowing from the organ.

And the congregation began to sing. “I know that my Redeemer lives.

What comfort this sweet sentence gives. ... He lives to grant me rich supply.

He lives to guide me with his eye. He lives to comfort me when I faint.

He lives to hear my soul's complaint. He lives to silence all my fears.

He lives to wipe away my tears. He lives to calm my troubled heart.

He lives all blessings to impart.” Well, my tears were not wiped away.

In fact, they just multiplied.

But they changed from tears of self-pity to tears of gratitude.

Heavenly Father had heard my prayer and had given me a much-needed assurance. He answered it during what I thought was a randomly picked sacrament meeting, entirely determined by my schedule.

But He knew where I needed to be that morning to hear His voice through a hymn

to calm my troubled heart. Although we are not perfect, we are perfectly known.

Elder Jeffrey R. Holland shared:

“The first great commandment of all eternity is to love God with all of our heart, might, mind, and strength. That is the first great commandment.

But the first great truth of all eternity is that God loves us with all of His heart, might, mind, and strength.”

Sometimes, sisters, we just need to push away some of the clutter in our lives to bring into focus what matters most.

Clutter, whether it's a messy home or a messy schedule,

can cause feelings of anxiety and stress and can cloud our ability to recognize the promptings of the Spirit or feel the love of God. My degree is in interior design.

There is a principle in design called “negative space.” In home design, especially in the field of decorating, there’s a tendency to over-decorate,

to over-prop, to over-fluff,

making sure that every vertical and horizontal line in the room has something on it.

Each item might have a special meaning,

and it may have been very carefully handpicked, but when every space is occupied, the eye does not know where to land. It bounces from wall to wall and from item to item, wondering where to settle.

It cannot find the intended focal point.

Negative space is a principle of leaving some areas blank,

unadorned, or empty, so the positive space or focal point is easily noticed.

When we over-decorate our lives with too many things,

it becomes hard to see the focal point, those things of most worth. Overcrowding our lives can leave us physically, emotionally, and spiritually exhausted,

and in these circumstances we are more susceptible to feelings of discouragement, self-doubt, and failure.

Being over-programmed, even with good things, makes it difficult for the Holy Ghost to gain our attention.

We then miss out on the direction, peace, and assurance and encouragement that He offers.

Can we make a little space for the Lord to fill our hearts?

Even a moment of quiet or connection with heaven can refocus us.

Since life is neither a race nor a competition,

we do not need to run faster, nor labor more than we have strength.

We can pace our progress. We can be patient with ourselves and with others.

Elder Neal A. Maxwell gave this wonderful counsel about being patient with ourselves as we progress.

“If there were too much swiftness, there could be no long-suffering,

no gradual soul-stretching,

or repenting. With too little time to absorb, to assimilate, and to apply the truths already given,

our capacities would not be fully developed.

Pearls cast before us would go unfound, ungathered, and unsavored.

It takes time to prepare for eternity.”

We're not expected to be perfect in our mortal state, nor are we expected to do everything perfectly.

Remember, we are doing many things for the very first time in our lives.

I'm not really great at anything,

but there are many things that I love doing.

Although we can always strive to do things better and be better, we must work hard to avoid the three Cs.

Do not criticize, complain, or compare.

We each have our own path and our own pace of growing and learning.

We need to give each other and ourselves a very much needed break. In fact, we should compliment,

champion, and celebrate our own and each other’s progress.

And even more, we can show compassion, courage, caring, curiosity, cheer, consideration, and cooperation. As we offer this generosity to ourselves and others, we will come to know the joy Heavenly Father has in store for us—the same joy that Preslee has found because she chooses to focus on the Savior more than the struggle.

We, too, can focus on Christ more than our weakness.

He is the source of all joy.

If we are missing the joy, His joy in our journey,

sisters were missing everything. Like the incredible Preslee,

you are magnificent. If you cannot see that, will you please accept our certainty that you are?

As you attend this conference this week,

we pray that you will feel an increase in the power and assurance that comes from knowing who you are. You are glorious.

Your light shines through any dark spaces you may perceive that you are in.

And when we unite as women bound to the Savior,

our light will permeate the world more majestically and brilliantly than all the stars in the heavens. In the name of Jesus Christ, amen.

This presentation was given at the BYU Women’s Conference on May 4, 2023.