Do’s and Don’ts of Defending Your Beliefs

The scriptures give you some basic principles for standing up for your faith, including the following.

“For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ”(Romans 1:16).

As President Thomas S. Monson has said, “We will all face fear, experience ridicule, and meet opposition. Let us—all of us—have the courage to defy the consensus, the courage to stand for principle. Courage, not compromise, brings the smile of God’s approval” (“Be Strong and of a Good Courage,” Ensign, May 2014, 69).

“We speak, not in the words which man’s wisdom teacheth, but whichthe Holy Ghost teacheth”(1 Corinthians 2:13).

Heavenly Father has given you the gift of the Holy Ghost, and you should take advantage of this gift. This doesn’t mean reason and logic can’t be inspired or confirmed by the Spirit; it just means that you should rely on the Spirit to guide your defense of your faith. Bear testimony by the Spirit. That’s the Lord’s way. (See also D&C 100:5–8.)

“He that hath the spirit of contention is not of me, but is of the devil, who is the father of contention, andhe stirreth up the hearts of men to contend with anger, one with another” (3 Nephi 11:29).

The point here is not that you should avoid any discussion in which people have differing points of view. Rather, it has to do with your intent as well as the emotions involved. We should seek understanding and try to persuade with meekess, not just score points and prove we’re right and someone else is wrong. A discussion where people are getting really worked up and angry is one you should either try to soften or simply avoid.

“A soft answer turneth away wrath; but grievous words stir up anger” (Proverbs 15:1).

Elder W. Craig Zwick of the Seventy has explained this scripture this way: “A ‘soft answer’ consists of a reasoned response—disciplined words from a humble heart. It does not mean we never speak directly or that we compromise doctrinal truth. Words that may be firm in information can be soft in spirit” (“What Are You Thinking?” Ensign, May 2014, 42).

“Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves” (Matthew 10:16).

The Savior doesn’t want you to be ignorant or naïve, but He also doesn’t want you to attack anyone. Knowing what goes on in the world doesn’t mean we have to use its tactics.

“Contend against no church” (D&C 18:20).

There is no need to criticize other churches. Positive statements of your beliefs rather than negative statements about others will be most effective. As the Prophet Joseph Smith said, “We don’t ask any people to throw away any good they have got; we only ask them to come and get more” (Teachings of Presidents of the Church: Joseph Smith [2007], 155).

“And thou shalt declare glad tidings. …

“And thou shalt do it with all humility, trusting in me, reviling not against revilers” (D&C 19:29–30).

The tidings you declare are glad. Remember that, and make sure your face and your voice show it too. Also, the word revile here means to hurl abusive or insulting language at a person. So if someone’s doing that to you, don’t retaliate and do the same thing back to them. The Apostle Peter taught that the Savior Himself gave the example you should follow in this regard (see 1 Peter 2:23).

“And of tenets thou shalt not talk, but thou shalt declare repentance and faith on the Savior, and remission of sins by baptism, and by fire, yea, even the Holy Ghost” (D&C 19:31).

Here, the word tenets refers to opinions or teachings that go beyond the basics. So the Lord is saying to stick to the basic message of the gospel when you’re declaring His glad tidings. This also applies to defending your faith. You don’t need to stray into detailed discussions about every little thing related to the Church. As Elder Richard G. Scott of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles has said, “Keep your sharing of the gospel simple” (“‘I Have Given You an Example,” Ensign, May 2014, 34).

“Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you” (Matthew 5:44).

“Everyone, independent of his or her decisions and beliefs, deserves our kindness and consideration,” said Elder Neil L. Andersen of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles. “The Savior taught us to love not only our friends but also those who disagree with us—and even those who repudiate us” (“Spiritual Whirlwinds,” Ensign, May 2014, 20).

“See that ye are not lifted up unto pride; yea, see that ye do not boast in your own wisdom, nor of your much strength.

“Use boldness, but not overbearance” (Alma 38:11–12).

Again, be humble. It’s not about you or how smart and capable you are. Also, you can be bold without making overblown statements or being a verbal or intellectual bully. As Elder Jeffrey R. Holland of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles has said: “You will one day find yourself called upon to defend your faith. … Such moments will require both courage and courtesy on your part” (“The Cost—and Blessings—of Discipleship,” Ensign, May 2014, 6).