Paying Attention: The Secret to Better Work and Home Life

12 October 2018

Clue into the little things. You’ll be surprised what a big difference it can make.

Do you ever lose focus at work, or daydream? Sometimes we go through our days performing at the same level, week after week. So, I’ve been thinking, what if I decide that I want to improve my work and make my relationships more rewarding? How do I learn to focus, to pay attention to the little things? Here are a few tips to help you know where to start.

Pay attention to body language.

When you are listening to a coworker or to your supervisor, pay attention to what isn’t being said. Tune in to those subtle clues that tell you if someone is unsure, nervous, or in need of help. Maybe you notice that your boss is a little frustrated or stressed. Ask, “How can I help?” or “How can I make this easier?” Or maybe you pick up cues that your coworker is struggling to express himself. Pause the conversation, and repeat back his comments: “So what you are saying is __________. Is that correct?” Paying attention to body language can help you respond to different situations appropriately, in a pleasant, patient, and understanding way.

Pay attention to little things that could become big problems.

Be on the lookout for trust issues in relationships or small flaws in work processes. For example, a coworker might be reluctant to let you use a piece of equipment or talk to a specific customer. Have an honest conversation: “Is there something you don’t trust me with? Let’s talk about it so I can make this better for both of us.” If the issue deals with a work process, bring it to your boss: “I think the way we are doing this might put the quality at risk. Do you mind if I point something out?” Paying attention to the little things can help you avoid conflicts and solve minor issues before they become real problems.

Pay attention to your emotions.

Take inventory of what you are feeling. Are you frustrated, anxious, or uncertain? Ask yourself, “Based on how I am feeling, would this be a good time to make a decision that affects the company or someone’s livelihood?” If not, take a moment to gather yourself. Take a walk to clear your head. Say a quick prayer, and ask for understanding. Breathe deeply. Identify the cause of your emotion. Once you understand where a feeling is coming from, you can acknowledge it and let it inform you. Then you can make a rational decision with a cooler head.

Pay attention to the people you love and who love you.

Spouses, children, parents, friends—they all deserve your best self. When you are with them, don’t check emails or worry about a problem at work. Be in the moment. Your relationships will deepen, you will feel more fulfilled, and you will be less likely to burn out at work. With this balance, you’ll be more effective at everything you do.

Start now by paying attention to the little things, from the body language of your coworkers to your own emotions. It can make a big difference in your success and your relationships—both at work and at home.