Eating with Members

“Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed? For your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things. But seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.”

—3 Nephi 13:31–33

Depending on your area, you may frequently be invited to eat at the homes of members. Sharing meals with others can be a great way to build and strengthen relationships. It may also be a source of stress because you may not have control over what or how much you are served.

It is helpful to be aware of the customs and etiquette of the area you’re in, as these can vary widely between cultures. For example, in some places, eating all the food on your plate indicates you’re enjoying the meal and would like more; leaving one bite shows you’re full. In some cultures, it may be seen as rude to serve yourself more food without being offered, while in others you’re expected to help yourself if you want more. Ask members or other missionaries what the local customs are. Knowing what to expect can help you communicate while respecting your hosts.

Tip Box

The following are some suggestions for how to say “Thank you, I’ve had enough” when someone keeps offering you more food:

• “I am completely full, but what I ate was delicious. Thank you so much for feeding me so well!”

• “No, thank you, but I would love some more water.”

• “I can’t eat another bite, but it was delicious. Would you be willing to share the recipe?”

• “I appreciate the offer, but I am completely full. Thank you so much for the wonderful meal.”

Once again, be aware of the proper etiquette for your area. Respond in a manner that will communicate your satiety, while showing true gratitude for the food that was shared with you and your companion.

What can you do if you’re not served the healthiest options? Do the best you can with what is available, and try not to stress about it too much. Every meal may not be perfectly balanced, but you can aim for balanced nutrition over the course of a day instead. One unhealthy meal will not have disastrous health consequences, just as a nutritious one won’t create vibrant health. Aim for about 80 percent healthy, balanced meals and snacks to ensure you’re getting the nutrition you need to feel your best as you work and serve.

Try This

“Go with me into my house and I will impart unto thee of my food; and I know that thou wilt be a blessing unto me and my house” (Alma 8:20).

Leave a blessing on the family and home of those who invite you in and share food with you and your companion. Leave them uplifted with the Spirit.