Lesson 114

Proverbs 10–31

Introduction

Proverbs 10–31 teaches the wisdom of choosing righteousness and virtue and the foolishness of following after the world. The book of Proverbs concludes with a poem focusing on the characteristics of a virtuous woman, whose value “is far above rubies” (Proverbs 31:10).

Suggestions for Teaching

Proverbs 10–30

The proverbs offer counsel to gain wisdom and understanding

Write the following proverb on the board: How much better is it to get than gold!

Invite students to explain how they would complete the statement and why.

Ask a student to read Proverbs 16:16 aloud. Invite the class to follow along, looking for the word that fills in the blank.

Remind students that a primary purpose of the book of Proverbs is to impart wisdom (see Proverbs 1:1–4). Explain that in their study of Proverbs 10–30, they will have the opportunity to discover and “teach one another words of wisdom” (D&C 88:118). Provide students with copies of the following chart as a handout. (The chart highlights proverbs containing principles that may be relevant to students’ lives.)

Proverbs
10:4, 12, 17	15:1, 3, 16, 20, 26, 32	21:21, 25	27:1–2
11:17, 19, 28	16:7, 18, 32	22:6	28:1, 13
12:15, 19, 22	17:17, 22	23:7	29:18
13:1, 7, 15, 20	18:10, 12	24:1–2	30:5
14:21, 34	20:1	25:21–22

Explain to students that they will have about five minutes to silently study some of the proverbs listed in the chart. Invite them to look for and choose a proverb they feel teaches an important principle that they would be comfortable teaching to their classmates. Explain that they do not need to choose an entire group of proverbs listed on the same line or in the same column, but that they can choose one or more verses from anywhere on the chart.

Determine pacing

Avoid taking so much time on the first part of the lesson that you have to rush through the rest. As you prepare, estimate how much time you will need to cover each part of the lesson, based on the teaching methods you have chosen. Because you will often have more material than time in which to teach it, you will need to determine which parts of the scripture block to emphasize and which to summarize.

After students have had time to study and choose a proverb, invite them to prepare to teach it to others using the instructions listed at the bottom of the handout.

To provide an example for students, you may want to teach a principle from a proverb of your choice by using the instructions listed on the handout. When students are prepared to teach, you could assign them to teach one another in pairs or in small groups, or you could invite students to teach the entire class.

Proverbs 31

The characteristics of a virtuous woman are praised

Display a small amount of money. You may want to remind students of the proverb they studied that teaches that wisdom is more valuable than gold (see Proverbs 16:16).

• In addition to wisdom, what else would you say is more valuable than riches?

Invite a student to read Proverbs 31:10 aloud. Ask the class to follow along, looking for who is more valuable than riches.

• Who is more valuable than riches? (You may need to explain that rubies are very valuable stones that are sometimes used in making expensive jewelry.)

• What principle can we learn from verse 10 about the value of virtue? (Students may suggest a variety of principles, but be sure they identify that virtue is more valuable than worldly wealth. Using students’ words, write this principle on the board.)

• How would you explain what virtue is?

As part of your discussion on virtue, you may want to invite a student to read aloud the following statement:

“Virtue originates in your innermost thoughts and desires. It is a pattern of thought and behavior based on high moral standards. Since the Holy Ghost does not dwell in unclean tabernacles, virtue is prerequisite to receiving the Spirit’s guidance. What you choose to think and do when you are alone and you believe no one is watching is a strong measure of your virtue.

“Virtuous people are clean and pure spiritually. They focus on righteous, uplifting thoughts and put unworthy thoughts that lead to inappropriate actions out of their minds. They obey God’s commandments and follow the counsel of Church leaders. They pray for the strength to resist temptation and do what is right. They quickly repent of any sins or wrongdoings. They live worthy of a temple recommend” (Preach My Gospel [2004], 118–19).

• Why do you think virtue is so valuable?

Explain that Proverbs 31 includes a description of the author’s ideal wife (see Bible Dictionary, “Proverbs, book of”). Invite students to take turns reading aloud from Proverbs 31:11–31. Ask the class to follow along and look for qualities of a virtuous person and blessings we can receive for developing these qualities. (Point out that these qualities and blessings also apply to men.) As students identify qualities and blessings, you may want to ask follow-up questions such as:

• What do you think that phrase means?

• Why would these same qualities be valuable for men to cultivate? Why do you think that is an important quality to have?

• What is an example of how developing that quality can lead to the blessing you identified?

Divide the class into small groups. Ask students to discuss the following question in their groups:

• What are some things we can do that will help us to be virtuous in our thoughts and actions?

After students have had sufficient time to discuss this question, ask each group to choose someone to report their ideas to the class. You may also want to ask a student to read aloud the following statement:

“Your mind is like a stage in a theater; in the theater of your mind, however, only one actor can be on stage at a time. If the stage is left bare, thoughts of darkness and sin often enter the stage to tempt. But these thoughts have no power if the stage of your mind is occupied by wholesome thoughts, such as a memorized hymn or verse of scripture that you can call upon in a moment of temptation. By controlling the stage of your mind, you can successfully resist persistent urges to yield to temptation and indulge in sin. You can become pure and virtuous” (Preach My Gospel [2004], 119).

Consider inviting students to testify of the value of choosing to live a virtuous and righteous life. Invite students to set a goal of something they will do to help them have virtuous thoughts or develop the qualities identified in Proverbs 31, and encourage them to follow through with their goal.

Commentary and Background Information

Proverbs 31:10–31. The virtuous qualities of a righteous mother

Sister Julie B. Beck, former Relief Society general president, spoke of the qualities a righteous woman should seek after:

“What is a mother heart and how is one acquired? We learn about some of those qualities in the scriptures. To paraphrase Proverbs: “Who can find a … woman [with a mother heart]? for her price is far above rubies. … She … worketh willingly with her hands. … With the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. … She stretcheth out her hand to the poor. … Strength and honour are her clothing. … She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness” (Proverbs 31:10, 13, 16, 20, 25–27). A woman with a mother heart has a testimony of the restored gospel, and she teaches the principles of the gospel without equivocation. She is keeping sacred covenants made in holy temples. Her talents and skills are shared unselfishly. She gains as much education as her circumstances will allow, improving her mind and spirit with the desire to teach what she learns to the generations who follow her” (“A ‘Mother Heart,’” Ensign or Liahona, May 2004, 75).

Proverbs 31:28. Husbands should praise and cherish their wives

President James E. Faust taught how priesthood holders can apply Proverbs 31:28:

“How should those who bear the priesthood treat their wives and the other women in their family? Our wives need to be cherished. They need to hear their husbands call them blessed, and the children need to hear their fathers generously praise their mothers (see Prov. 31:28). The Lord values his daughters just as much as he does his sons. In marriage, neither is superior; each has a different primary and divine responsibility. Chief among these different responsibilities for wives is the calling of motherhood. I firmly believe that our dear faithful sisters enjoy a special spiritual enrichment which is inherent in their natures.

“President Spencer W. Kimball stated: ‘To be a righteous woman during the winding up scenes on this earth, before the second coming of our Savior, is an especially noble calling. … Other institutions in society may falter, and even fail, but the righteous woman can help to save the home, which may be the last and only sanctuary some mortals know in the midst of storm and strife’ ([“Privileges and Responsibilities of Sisters,”] Ensign, Nov. 1978, p. 103)” (“Keeping Covenants and Honoring the Priesthood,” Ensign, Nov. 1993, 38–39).

Supplemental Teaching Idea

Proverbs 31:10–31. Attributes of righteous parents

Provide students with copies of “The Family: A Proclamation to the World.” Ask students to ponder and discuss how the qualities described in Proverbs 31:10–31 are also found in the family proclamation. You might want to ask students some of the following questions:

• How can mothers and fathers look “well to the ways of [their] household” and help their children “[eat] not the bread of idleness”?

• How have you seen your parents and others doing the things named in Proverbs 31:10–31 for their families?