Suicide
How to Respond after a Suicide

“How to Respond after a Suicide,” How to Help (2018).

“How to Respond after a Suicide,” How to Help.

How to Respond after a Suicide

Despite our best efforts, not all suicides can be prevented. It is normal for those left behind after a suicide to have feelings of denial, shock, guilt, anger, and confusion. President M. Russell Ballard said, “The act of taking one’s life is truly a tragedy because this single act leaves so many victims: first the one who dies, then the dozens of others—family and friends—who are left behind, some to face years of deep pain and confusion” (“Suicide: Some Things We Know, and Some We Do Not,” Ensign, Oct. 1987, 7). For these individuals, healing comes through the Savior, who “descended below all things” so that He might know “according to the flesh how to succor his people according to their infirmities” (Doctrine and Covenants 88:6; Alma 7:12). Professional resources and counseling may also be helpful.

Stake and ward councils may want to discuss how they can support an individual or family after a suicide. Questions to discuss may include the following:

  • How can the teachings and Atonement of Jesus Christ bring healing to the individual or family?

  • What needs have ministering brothers and sisters observed in the person or family? What service have they given?

  • What ongoing emotional or spiritual support will the person or family need? Who can offer this support?

  • Does the person or family have temporal needs, such as transportation or meals?

  • How can ward auxiliary leaders support children and youth who have lost a loved one?

The grieving process after a suicide can last a long time. If someone continues to feel intense pain or grief, counsel with others who care about the person. Prayerfully consider how you can best offer support. You might want to help the person obtain a priesthood blessing or connect with resources in your area. Grief support groups, doctors, or other health care professionals may be helpful.

Note: If you are leading a discussion, do not talk about how a person took their life. This may unintentionally encourage someone in the group to copy the behavior described. If someone begins to share these details in a group setting, redirect the conversation in a kind way.

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