“Contents,” Ensign, Sept. 1981 Ensign September 1981 Volume 11 Number 9 Contents Special Features First Presidency Message: We Believe in Being ChastePresident Marion G. Romney What the Lord Requires of FathersElder Robert L. Backman “I’m Brother Hughes, Your Home Teacher”W. Martine Bates Different Directions, Different MethodsCarolyn Manning Brink “Be of Good Cheer”: The Jimmy Lawrence LegacyMary Kay Peirce Why Our Toddlers Enjoy Home EveningMarion D. Stewart Disaster on the MissouriGeri Berbert Three HousesKenley Reese For Husbands and WivesMaking a Marriage Work Elder Hugh W. PinnockBreaking the Cycle: A Case Study of Conflict in Marriage C. Ross ClementTaking Action—with a Plan! S. Brent ScharmanGetting to Know You Better: A Marriage Quiz Brent A. BarlowThoughts on Marriage Compatibility Classical BasketballTamera Smith Allred Confessions of a Non-GourmetAnya C. Bateman Catherine’s Faith: Vignettes from the Life of Catherine Jane Cottam RomneyClifford J. Stratton and Marsha Romney Stratton “Why Must I Live So Long?”Judy Grigg Hansen Regular Features PoetryA Sacrament Hymn Orson Scott CardSacramental Sonnet John S. TannerSacrament Thoughts Val Camenish Wilcox I Have a QuestionRobert J. MatthewsGayle Platt Spjut Speaking Today: “Let Your Light So Shine”Elder Dean L. Larsen Sharing Mirthright: Living with My Son’s Chest of DrawersCamilla M. Northrup Random Sampler Comment Mormon JournalA Letter Made the Difference Mary Johansen“For without Me Ye Can Do Nothing” Mark HartFoster Children—Our Blessing Mary F. GoodmanHow I “Found Time” for Gospel Study Ardelle Holderness“I Saved Sharee!” R. Gene Allphin Fiction: Bus StopPatty Redd Kennington News of the Church On the cover: Photography by Eldon K. Linschoten. See pages 33–48 for several articles on marriage. Marriage depends first and always on the two spouses, who can always make their marriage successful and happy if they are determined, unselfish, and righteous. The formula is: First, there must be the proper approach toward marriage, which contemplates the selection of a spouse who reaches as nearly as possible mature development in all the matters that are of importance to the individuals. Second, there must be great unselfishness, directing of the family life and all pertaining thereunto to the good of the family. Third, there must be continued courting and expressions of affection, kindness, and consideration to keep love alive and growing. Fourth, there must be the living of the commandments of the Lord as defined in the gospel of Jesus Christ. With these ingredients properly mixed and continually kept functioning, it is quite impossible for misunderstandings to continue or for breaks to occur. —President Spencer W. Kimball Inside front cover: Promises, by Judith Mehr, 30″ by 36″, oil on canvas, 1980. Located in the Church Historical Department. Inside back cover: Endowment House, by Cornelius Salisbury, 23″ by 32″, oil on canvas, 1963. Located in the Church Historical Department.