I Forgive You

By Judy Edwards

“Be ye kind one to another, … forgiving one another” (Eph. 4:32).

Have you ever had a difficult time forgiving someone who has been unkind to you? If the person comes to you and says that he is sorry, it is always good to say, “I forgive you.” But if he is unkind again, what should you do then?

From the New Testament, we learn that Peter asked Jesus a similar question. Peter wanted to know how often he should forgive someone who had wronged him. He asked if forgiving someone seven times was enough.

Jesus answered, “I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven” (Matt. 18:22).

Those of you who can multiply know that 70 x 7 = 490! What a large number! Did Jesus really mean that Peter should forgive a person 490 times? Would Peter need to carry a book or a tablet to keep track of each time he forgave until he had forgiven that many times? Elder James E. Talmage, an Apostle in our time, tells us that Jesus meant that Peter—and all of us—should be willing to always forgive. (See Jesus the Christ, page 393.)

Why is forgiving others so important? When Jesus told Peter to forgive seventy times seven, was he thinking only of the person being forgiven, or was he thinking of Peter, too? Would forgiving others help Peter feel peace?

Yes! Jesus knew that Peter would be blessed with a feeling of peace each time he truly forgave someone. Forgiving brings peace to those who forgive as well as to those who are forgiven. Jesus taught that we should forgive and be kind to one another, and he set the example for us.

Instructions

Often it helps us to forgive another person if we try to “walk in his shoes.” This means we try to imagine how we might feel if we were that person, to try to understand why he might have done or said what he did. As you read the situations on the following page, find the shoes that fit each one, and draw a line from them to the situation they match. Then “walk in those shoes” and finish the sentence with possible reasons for that person’s behavior.

Illustrated by Denise Kirby

Nate wanted a turn at riding the horse, but his older brother wouldn’t get off and let him have a ride. I think Nate could understand and forgive his brother because _____________________________________
Lisa’s father said he had to break his promise and miss her school program that night because of work. I think Lisa could understand and forgive her father because _____________________________________
Michelle jumped into a large puddle and splashed mud all over Kevin. I think Kevin could understand and forgive Michelle because _____________________________________
Heidi’s little sister, Maria, wouldn’t help catch the family dog, who squeezed through the back fence just as the family was leaving for Church. I think Heidi could understand and forgive Maria because _____________________________________
Robyn was upset because her older brother wouldn’t let her go with him to work in the fields. I think Robyn could understand and forgive her brother because _____________________________________
Logan had just thrown the soccer ball in bounds when a member of the other team ran into him and knocked him down. I think Logan could understand and forgive the other player because _____________________________________
Debbie went into her bedroom and saw her two-year-old brother scribbling with crayons on the cover of her favorite book. I think Debbie could understand and forgive her brother because _____________________________________

Sharing Time Ideas

Write “I forgive you” on seven separate cards and hide them around the room. Have children find and count the cards. Ask the significance of seven cards. Share the story of Peter and Jesus. (See Matt. 18:21–22.)
Bring several different pairs of shoes. Have each class use a pair of shoes to tell a story of forgiveness; or invite two children to role-play each story, trying on each others’ shoes to understand the other person’s point of view. During the discussion, show a pair of sandals and a picture of Jesus and explain that there are times when we should forgive even when we don’t understand why the wrong was done or when the other person isn’t sorry. At these times, we must receive help from Heavenly Father to forgive others as Jesus would forgive.
Sing “Help Me, Dear Father,” verse 1 (Children’s Songbook, page 99), and discuss our need for Heavenly Father’s help in forgiving those who are unkind to us, especially at those times when we don’t want to forgive.
Have each younger child draw a picture for her or his Book of Peace that shows the child forgiving another person. Each older child could write about a personal experience of forgiving another person.