2018
Arthpurn Rishte Banana
August 2018
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Dekhrekh Ke Niyam, August 2018

Arthpurn Rishte Banana

Hum long dusra ke zyaada achcha se dekhbhaal karta hai jab hum dono ke beech arthpurn rishta rehwe.

Dusra ke dekhrekh kare la nimantran ek maoka hai dhyaan dewe la rishta banae ke kostin u long ke sange—waisan rishta jisse u long aaraam se hum long ke madad maangi aur apnaai. Jab hum long u koshish kar leta hai u rakam ke rishta banawe ke, Parmeshwar hum long ke jiwan rishta ke dono taraf sudhaare paawe hai.

“Hum to sach me biswaas karta hai arthpurn rishta long ke bagaer koi mahatwapurn badlaao nahi howe hai,” bolis Sharon Eubank, Sahayak Sanstha Jenral Adhyakshta me Pratham Salaahkaar. Aur dusra ke jiwan me hum long ke sewa ke kaarye se badlaao laawe ke kostin, u bolis, uske chaahi “changaai kare aur sune aur saath dewe aur aadar kare ke gehra ichcha rakho.”1

Arthpurn rishte koi chaal nahi hai. U daya, sachchi koshishe, aur “sachcha pyaar” pe bana rahe (D&C 121:41).2

Rishte Banawe aur Mazboot Kare Ke Tarike

“Ek samay pe ek insaan se hum long [rishte] banata hai,”Elder Dieter F. Uchtdorf ne kaha jo Barah Devduton ke Korum ke the.3 Jab hum long koshish karta arthpurn rishte banawe ke jinse hum long dekhrekh karta, Pavitra Aatma hum long ke sake rasta dikhaae. Diya ge la sujhaao Elder Uchtdorf ke dewa ge la ek aadarsh pe aadharit hai.4

  • I long ke baare me seekho.

    Pradhaan Ezra Taft Benson (1899–1994) sikhaais, “Tum jiske nahi achcha se janta u long ke achcha se sewa nahin sakta kare.” Uske salaah raha parivaar ke har ek sadasye ke naam jaanna aur zaroori taareekho ka pata karna jaise janam din, ashirvaadein, baptismaen, aur shaadiyaan. Isse maoka mile hai ek not likhe ke ya ek koll kare ke ek parivaar ke sadasye ko badhaai dene ke liye kisi khaas safalta ya hunar paane par.5

  • Saath samay bitaae.

    Samay lagta hai ek rishta ko badhne me. Maoke khojo sampark banae rakhne ke liye. Jaanch se yeh pata laga hai ki kisi ko apna parwaah jatana zaroori hai swasth rishte ke liye.6 Aapko jinse bhent karne ko kaha gaya hai unse aksar mile. Unse girja me baatein karein. Jo bhi tarika sahi lage use istemaal kare—jaise email, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Skype, phone kolls, ya ek card bhejna. Elder Richard G. Scott (1928–2015) jo Barah Devduton ke Korum ke hai ne saadhaaran aur khud banae huwe pyaar aur sahara jatane waale kaam karne ko kaha hai: “Aksar mai apne skripchas kholta hoon, … aur [apni patni] Jeanene dwara likhe pyaare aur sehyog dene waale not paata hoon panne ke beech. … Woh anmol not … ab bhi ek anmol khazana hai sahanubhuti aur prerna ka.”7

    Yeh bhi, yaad rakhiye ki ek rishte me do ki zaroorat hoti hai. Aap pyaar aur dosti doge, lekin rishta nahi badhega jab tak prastaao swikaara aur lautaya nahijaata. Agar dusra vyakti nahi apnaata ho, rishta me jabardasti nahi karna. Use samay do tumhare dil se ki koshish ko dekhne ke liye, aur agar zaroori ho, apne netaaon se salaah lo ki kya ek arthpurn rishta ab bhi mumkin lagta hai ya nahin.

  • Dhyaan se vaartalaab karo.

    Arthpurn rishte banawe ke liye hamein khali dikhawa la kaam se zyaada kare ke chaahi. Dikhawa la baat cheet khali dher kaam, mausam, aur dusra maamuli kaam ke chota baat se bhara hai, lekin usme zyaada arthpurn rishte banaye la ehsaas, biswaas, lakshye, aur chintaaen nahin hai. Swargiye Pita ne yeh zyaada matlab se bhara vaartalaabh tayaar kiya hai Apne ehsaas aur yojna Apne Bete se bata kar (dekhiye John 5:20) aur hamare saath Apne profaton ke zariye (dekhiye Amos 3:7). Har din ke kaarikaram aur jiwan ke chunaotiyon ko, jaise Aatma batata hai, ek dusre se baatne se hum ek dusre ko samajhne lagte hai saamaanye dilchaspi aur ek jaise anubhavon ko paakar.

    Sunna bahut zaroori hai yeh jatane ke liye ki aap parwaah karte ho.8 Jab aap dhyaan se sunoge, aapka Maseeh tak aane me madad karne ka maoka badhega jaise tum samajhne lagoge aur unke zarooraton ko jaanne lagoge aur woh pyaar, samajh, aur surakshit mehsoos karne lagenge.

  • Donon antar aur saamaanyata ke liye abhaari raho.

    “Kuch log … biswaas karte hai ki Girjaghar har ek sadasye ko ek jaisa banana chahata hai—ki har ek ko ek hi tarah dikhna, mehsoos karna, sochna, aur pesh aana chahiye,” kaha Elder Uchtdorf ne. “Yeh Parmeshwar ke vishaal gyaan ke virudh hoga, jisne insaan ko uske bhaai se alag banaya. …

    “Girjaghar me badhanti hoti hai jab hum is bhinnta ka faaeda uthaae aur ek dusre ko protsaahit kare apne guno ko istemaal karne me aur apne saathi chelon ko mazboot karein.”9

    Auron ko Parmeshwar jaisa pyaar karne ke liye yeh chahiye ki hum auron ko Parmeshwar ke nazariya se dekhne ki koshish karein. Pradhaan Thomas S. Monson (1927–2018) ne sikhlaaya, “Hamein yeh chamta jagana chahiye [auron] ko us tarah nahi dekhna jaise woh aaj hai par jaisa woh ban sakte hai.”10 Hum prarthna kar sakte hai auron ko Parmeshwar ke nazariya se dekhne me madad ke liye. Jab hum auron se unke badhne ki chamta se pesh aaye, yeh mumkin hai woh waisa hi karenge.11

  • U long ke sewa karo.

    Jon ke aap sewa karta u long ke zaroorato ke or ehsaas aur samajhdaari dikhaao aur apna samay aur gun baatne ke liye tayyaar raho, chaahe zaroorat ke samay ya sirf isliye ki aap parwaah karte ho. Aap wahan sahanubhuti, saath, aur zaroori sehyog dene ke liye ho sakte ho emajensy, beemaari, ya kisi ejant samay pe. Lekin zyaada rishton me hum long jonchi hoi pe dhyaan deta hai. Parmeshwar hum long ke chune ke shakti dis hai jisse hum long sako kaam karo na ki humse karwaya jaaye (dekhiye 2 Nephi 2:14). Jis tarah se Devdut John ne sikhlaya tha ki hum Parmeshwar se pyaar karein kyunki Usne pehle humse pyaar kiya tha (dekhiye 1 John 4:19), jab dusra insaan hum long ke sewa se hum long ke sachcha pyaar mehsoos kari, isse dil narm howe sake aur pyaar aur bharosa badhawe sake.12 Isse ek upar jaata hua kaaryon ka chakkar banta hai jisse rishte banenge.

Uddhaarkarta ke Rakam Dekhrekh Karo

Ishu Masih ne Apne chelon ke saath arthpurn rishte banaye the (dekhiye John 11:5). Woh unhe jaanta tha (dekhiye John 1:47–48). Woh unke saath samay bitata tha (dekhiye Luke 24:13–31). Uske baat-cheet dikhawa se zyaada rehta tha (dekhiye John 15:15). Woh unke fark ko samajhte the (dekhiye Matthew 9:10) aur unke chamta ko dekha (dekhiye John 17:23). Usne sab ki sewa ki, bhale hi Woh sabke Prabhu the, yeh kehte the Woh dekhrekh karwane nahi aaya par dekhrekh karne ke liye (dekhiye Mark 10:42–45).

Aap jinki sewa karenge kis tarah se unke saath mazboot rishte banaenge?

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  1. Sharon Eubank, “Humanitarian Acts Must Be Rooted in Relationship, Sharon Eubank Says,” me mormonnewsroom.org.

  2. Dekhiye “Ministering Principles: Reach Out in Compassion,” Liahona, July 2018, 6–9.

  3. Dieter F. Uchtdorf, “Of Things That Matter Most,” Liahona, Nov. 2010, 22.

  4. Dekhiye Dieter F. Uchtdorf, “Of Things That Matter Most,” 22.

  5. Dekhiye Ezra Taft Benson, “To the Home Teachers of the Church,” Ensign, May 1987, 50.

  6. Dekhiye Charles A. Wilkinson aur Lauren H. Grill, “Expressing Affection: A Vocabulary of Loving Messages,” Making Connections: Readings in Relational Communication, me ed. Kathleen M. Galvin, 5th ed. (2011), 164–73.

  7. Richard G. Scott, “Vivaah Ke Anant Ashirvaadein,” Liahona, May 2011, 96.

  8. Dekhiye “Dekhrekh ke Niyam: Paanch Cheezein Achcha Sunnewaale Karte Hai,” Liahona, June 2018, 6–9.

  9. Dieter F. Uchtdorf, Chaar Shirshakein,” Liahona, May 2013, 59.

  10. Thomas S. Monson, “Auron ki Yogyata ko Dekhna,” Liahona, Nov. 2012, 68.

  11. Dekhiye Terence R. Mitchell aur Denise Daniels, “Motivation,” Handbook of Psychology me, vol. 12, ed. Walter C. Borman aur anye log (2003), 229.

  12. Dekhiye Edward J. Lawler, Rebecca Ford, aur Michael D. Large, “Unilateral Initiatives as a Conflict Resolution Strategy,” Social Psychology Quarterly, vol. 62, no. 3 (Sept. 1999), 240–56.