How can I help others understand my disability?

There will be times when you may need to communicate with others that you need help, support, adaptations, or accommodations because of your disability. Sometimes, a disability may be hard to talk about. Often, others want to help, but they aren’t aware of your needs or they aren’t sure how to help. They might avoid asking you about your situation because they are afraid of saying the wrong thing, or they may think the conversation will be awkward. If you aren’t uncomfortable talking about your disability, you will often find that those who love you are willing to listen. Pray to Heavenly Father for courage and guidance about how to talk with people about your disability. Ponder what you would like others to know about you. What are your strengths? What are your challenges? What have you found to be helpful? What talents do you have that could help you serve others?

Realize that most members of the Church are open to guidance on how to help and include those with disabilities. Recognize that your brothers and sisters may also be prompted about how to help.

The Holy Ghost can help family members, teachers, and leaders know when to reach out and how they can be helpful.

Here are a few tips to consider when helping others understand your needs and your situation:

• Be patient as other members learn about you and overcome misconceptions.

• Focus on the positive when asking for a change.

• Clarify what was said. You can do this by repeating what you understood from the conversation or by asking others to repeat what they understood from the conversation.

• Be open to different views or ideas about how to accomplish a goal, and ask for others’ thoughts about the situation. Don’t think that your way is the only way.

• Keep the conversation focused on a specific need. If it gets off topic, bring it back to the topic.

• Be grateful. Thank members for talking with you and being willing to listen.