“Lesson 160—The Family Proclamation, Part 3: Happiness in Family Life,” Doctrine and Covenants Seminary Teacher Manual (2025)
“The Family Proclamation, Part 3,” Doctrine and Covenants Seminary Teacher Manual
One reason Heavenly Father sent us to earth in families is to help us experience happiness. In the family proclamation, the Lord revealed how we can achieve peace and happiness as individuals and families. This lesson can help students apply the teachings of Jesus Christ in their family relationships.
Possible Learning Activities
Consider writing the following incomplete cause-and-effect sentence on the board. Complete the first blank with a phrase like “Getting good grades.” Then invite students to fill in the second blank with a phrase that completes the statement, such as “we do homework.” You could repeat this process a few times using different phrases.
“ is most likely to be achieved when .”
Invite students to read paragraph 7 of the family proclamation, looking for an inspired way to complete the phrase on the board. Help students recognize the following truth: Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ . To help students think about how living Christ’s teachings can lead to happiness in family life, ask them to ponder questions like the following:
Inform students that at the end of this lesson, they will be invited to act on one of the Savior’s teachings that could increase the happiness of their family. Invite students to seek Heavenly Father’s help during the rest of the lesson to know which principle they should focus on. Encourage students to pay attention to any thoughts or feelings they receive from the Holy Ghost.
The teachings of Jesus Christ
Consider putting a picture of Jesus Christ on the board. Ask students to read paragraph 7 again, this time marking each teaching that can increase family happiness. Invite students to write what they found on the board around the picture of Jesus Christ. Then have students form small groups or pairs to complete the following activity:
Choose a teaching of Jesus Christ you found in paragraph 7 .
Find a scripture or a statement by a Church leader that helps us better understand that teaching.
Describe how following that teaching can increase happiness in families.
If students need help, you can invite them to use the Guide to the Scriptures or to search in the Gospel Library app. The following are some scriptures students might find related to teachings from paragraph 7 : 3 Nephi 18:15–16, 21 (prayer); Moroni 7:45–48 (love); Doctrine and Covenants 58:42–43 (repentance); Doctrine and Covenants 64:9–11 (forgiveness).
If available, invite students to search “Happiness in Family Life ,” available at ChurchofJesusChrist.org , to find teachings from Church leaders about the principles in paragraph 7 .
After sufficient time, invite groups to share with the class what they found. As groups share, ask them to write on the board the scripture reference or part of the Church leader’s statement that helped them understand the teaching of Jesus Christ.
Then you could use questions like the following to help students ponder and discuss how the teachings of Jesus Christ can affect families.
Which of Christ’s teachings on the board have had an impact on the happiness you feel in your family?
Which of these teachings would you like to focus on more in your family? Why? How can you accomplish this in your family?
Which of them would you like to focus on in your future family? Why?
Which of the Savior’s teachings can help a family that is struggling with disagreement, contention, or strained relationships?
As students discuss the previous question, you might point them to the principles of “faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, [and] compassion” in the paragraph they studied. Testify of the Savior’s desire to forgive, heal, and improve individuals and family relationships. Our efforts and desires to repent and forgive others can invite His healing influence into our lives and relationships.
Before inviting students to apply one of the Savior’s teachings to their own family, help them consider ways His teachings could be applied in various family situations. Consider writing a few different family situations on the board that students in your class might relate to. Examples could include the following:
Entire family active in the Church.
Part-member family.
Divorced parents.
Single-parent family.
Consider asking students to share answers to the following questions for each family situation on the board:
Then consider displaying the following statement:
Elder David A. Bednar of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles taught:
Whatever bad things may have occurred in your family, I testify and promise that the Lord Jesus Christ is the source of the healing, renewing, and restoring that you need. …
With the help of the Lord, you can create an eternal family, even if you did not come from the kind of Latter-day Saint home that sometimes is featured on the covers of the Liahona or Ensign magazines. Please always remember: it begins with you! (David A. Bednar, “A Welding Link ” [worldwide devotional for young adults, Sept. 10, 2017], broadcasts.ChurchofJesusChrist.org )
Invite students to choose one of Jesus’s teachings from the family proclamation that they feel prompted to apply to improve happiness in their own families. Give them time to ponder and write in their study journals a plan to start, continue, or improve living that teaching. If time permits, invite some students to share what they felt inspired to do.
Consider sharing your witness of Jesus Christ’s power to increase happiness in families of those striving to live His teachings.
Elder Robert D. Hales (1932–2017) of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles said:
With the help of the Lord and His doctrine, all the hurtful effects from challenges a family may meet can be understood and overcome. Whatever the needs of family members may be, we can strengthen our families as we follow the counsel given by prophets.
The key to strengthening our families is having the Spirit of the Lord come into our homes. The goal of our families is to be on the strait and narrow path. …
… The family is strengthened as we draw near to the Lord, and each member of the family is strengthened as we lift and strengthen and love and care for one another. (Robert D. Hales, “Strengthening Families: Our Sacred Duty ,” Ensign , May 1999, 33–34)
The Guide to the Scriptures gives the following definition of family :
As used in the scriptures, a family consists of a husband and wife, children, and sometimes other relatives living in the same house or under one family head. A family can also be a single parent with children, a husband and wife without children, or even a single person living alone. (Guide to the Scriptures, “Family ,” scriptures.ChurchofJesusChrist.org )
Elder Dieter F. Uchtdorf of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles said:
With Jesus Christ, the Master Healer and Savior, there can always be a new beginning; He always gives hope.
Jesus Christ is the strength of families.
Jesus Christ is the strength of youth.
Jesus Christ is the strength of parents. (Dieter F. Uchtdorf, “Jesus Christ Is the Strength of Parents ,” Liahona , May 2023, 59)
Elder D. Todd Christofferson of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles taught:
Wholesome recreation is the friend and steadying companion of work. Music, literature, art, dance, drama, athletics—all can provide entertainment to enrich one’s life. … At the same time, it hardly needs to be said that much of what passes for entertainment today is coarse, degrading, violent, mind-numbing, and time wasting. Ironically, it sometimes takes hard work to find wholesome leisure. When entertainment turns from virtue to vice, it becomes a destroyer of the consecrated life. (D. Todd Christofferson, “Reflections on a Consecrated life ,” Ensign or Liahona , Nov. 2010, 17)
To help students better understand that men and women are equal before God, you can invite them to read the second half of paragraph 7 (beginning with “By divine design”), looking for fathers’ and mothers’ responsibilities. Students may write on the board what they found. They could share some of the important, unique things that their mothers and fathers have taught them. Then help students to understand this truth: Fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners . To help students deepen their understanding of this truth, consider dividing the class in two and having each half study one of the following statements by President M. Russell Ballard of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles:
Our Father in Heaven loves all of His children equally, perfectly, and infinitely. His love is no different for His daughters than for His sons. Our Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ, also loves men and women equally. His atonement and His gospel are for all of God’s children. …
The gospel of Jesus Christ can sanctify both men and women in the same way and by identical principles. For example, faith repentance, baptism, and the gift of the Holy Ghost are requirements for all of God’s children, regardless of gender . … [Heavenly Father] loves us all equally, and His greatest gift, the gift of eternal life, is available to all. (M. Russell Ballard, “Equality through Diversity ,” Ensign , Nov. 1993, 89)
Even though men and women are equal before God in their eternal opportunities, they have different, but equally significant, duties in His eternal plan. … [God] can acknowledge and even encourage our differences while providing equal opportunity for growth and development. …
… Many of the requirements [for an exalted family life] are exactly the same for men and women. For example, obedience to the laws of God should be the same for men and women. Men and women should pray in the same way. They both have the same privilege of receiving answers to their prayers and thereby obtaining personal revelation for their own spiritual development. (M. Russell Ballard, “Equality through Diversity ,” Ensign , Nov. 1993, 89–90)
To help students discuss what they learned, ask questions such as the following:
What did you learn about how God sees men and women?
What do you think “equal partners” means?
How can understanding this truth help you increase happiness in your current and future family?
Many students will face situations that require courage and faith in Jesus Christ to defend what He revealed in the family proclamation. Consider showing the video “Defenders of the Faith ” (6:56), which tells the true story of Marie Madeline Cardon defending what she knew to be true. The video likens this to modern youth defending the Lord’s doctrine on the family, despite differing beliefs and circumstances that surround them.
6:56
You can also consider displaying the following statement by Sister Bonnie L. Oscarson, former Young Women General President:
We need to boldly defend the Lord’s revealed [doctrine] describing marriage, families, the divine roles of men and women, and the importance of homes as sacred places—even when the world is shouting in our ears that these principles are outdated, limiting, or no longer relevant. Everyone, no matter what their marital circumstance or number of children, can be defenders of the Lord’s plan described in the family proclamation. If it is the Lord’s plan, it should also be our plan! (Bonnie L. Oscarson, “Defenders of the Family Proclamation ,” Ensign or Liahona , May 2015, 15)
Then have students discuss questions like the following:
Which truths has the Lord revealed regarding family that are not yet understood by many in the world?
Why is it important to defend the Lord’s doctrine on family no matter our current family circumstances?
How can we stand firm in what the Lord has taught in a way that fosters peace rather than contention?
How can understanding the Lord’s doctrine on family now prepare you to raise a family in the future?