Suicide
How Do I Tell Others What Happened?

“How Do I Tell Others What Happened?” Loss Survivors (2018).

“How Do I Tell Others?” Loss Survivors.

How Do I Tell Others What Happened?

One of the difficult decisions after a suicide is what to tell others, including children. Many people try to protect themselves or others from pain or shame by keeping a suicide secret. However, sharing the truth about a loved one’s suicide with a person whom you trust can be very healing. Prayerfully consider how much information you will share with others and when. Be aware that some people will listen and communicate better than others. Well-meaning individuals may make insensitive or judgmental remarks in an attempt to offer support. Try to recognize the love and comfort they intend rather than taking offense.

It is important for parents to talk to their child when someone the child knew has died by suicide. Parents should prayerfully consider their child’s age and maturity level when deciding what to tell them. Assure the child that the suicide was not their fault. Share your testimony of the Atonement of Jesus Christ. Encourage the child to share positive memories of the person who died, and give the child time to ask questions. Consider praying together or offering the child a priesthood blessing. You may also want to consult with a children’s health care professional to help in this process.

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