Finding Answers

If you listen to general conference, you can often find answers to the questions that concern you.

What do I do if I feel lonely or unimportant?

No matter where you live, no matter how humble your circumstances, how meager your employment, how limited your abilities, [or] how ordinary your appearance, … you are not invisible to your Heavenly Father. He loves you. He knows your humble heart and your acts of love and kindness. Together, they form a lasting testimony of your fidelity and faith.

Please understand that what you see and experience now is not what forever will be. You will not feel loneliness, sorrow, pain, or discouragement forever. We have the faithful promise of God that He will neither forget nor forsake those who incline their hearts to Him. Have hope and faith in that promise. Learn to love your Heavenly Father and become His disciple in word and in deed.

President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, Second Counselor in the First Presidency

I’ve made a big mistake, and I feel like I’m lost and can’t repent. What can I do?

If the adversary should take you prisoner due to misconduct, I remind you that you hold the key that will unlock the prison door from the inside. You can be washed clean through the atoning sacrifice of the Savior Jesus Christ.

You may in time of trouble think that you are not worth saving because you have made mistakes, big or little, and you think you are now lost. That is never true! Only repentance can heal what hurts. But repentance can heal what hurts, no matter what it is.

If you are slipping into things that you should not slip into or if you are associating with people who are pulling you the wrong direction, that is the time to assert your independence, your agency. Listen to the voice of the Spirit, and you will not be led astray.

President Boyd K. Packer, President of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles

Why do I sometimes not get answers to my prayers?

In my life I have learned that sometimes I do not receive an answer to a prayer because the Lord knows I am not ready. When He does answer, it is often “here a little and there a little” because that is all that I can bear or all I am willing to do.

… As a young man, President David O. McKay prayed for a witness of the truthfulness of the gospel. Many years later, while he was serving his mission in Scotland, that witness finally came. Later he wrote, “It was an assurance to me that sincere prayer is answered ‘sometime, somewhere’” (Teachings of Presidents of the Church: David O. McKay [2003], xviii).

We may not know when or how the Lord’s answers will be given, but in His time and His way, I testify, His answers will come. For some answers we may have to wait until the hereafter. This may be true for some promises in our patriarchal blessings and for some blessings for family members. Let us not give up on the Lord. His blessings are eternal, not temporary.

Elder Robert D. Hales of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles

Sometimes we seem to get no answer to our sincere and striving prayers. It takes faith to remember that the Lord answers in His time and in His way so as to best bless us. Or, on further reflection, we will often realize that we already know full well what we should do.

Elder J. Devn Cornish of the Seventy

What do I need to know about Satan?

Number one, Satan or Lucifer or the Father of Lies—call him what you will—is real, the very personification of evil. His motives are in every case malicious, and he convulses at the appearance of redeeming light, at the very thought of truth. Number two, he is eternally opposed to the love of God, the Atonement of Jesus Christ, and the work of peace and salvation. He will fight against these whenever and wherever he can. He knows he will be defeated and cast out in the end, but he is determined to take down with him as many others as he possibly can. …

Satan cannot directly take a life. That is one of many things he cannot do. But apparently his effort to stop the work will be reasonably well served if he can just bind the tongue of the faithful.

Elder Jeffrey R. Holland of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles

Why do we need the Book of Mormon when we have the Bible?

The Bible is one witness of Jesus Christ; the Book of Mormon is another. Why is this second witness so crucial? The following illustration may help: How many straight lines can you draw through a single point on a piece of paper? The answer is infinite. For a moment suppose that single point represents the Bible and that hundreds of those straight lines drawn through that point represent different interpretations of the Bible and that each of those interpretations represents a different church.

What happens, however, if on that piece of paper there is a second point representing the Book of Mormon? How many straight lines could you draw between these two reference points: the Bible and the Book of Mormon? Only one. Only one interpretation of Christ’s doctrines survives the testimony of these two witnesses.

Elder Tad R. Callister of the Presidency of the Seventy

How can I teach by the Spirit in sacrament and quorum meetings?

Real learning … depends on real teaching. …

… We must fully realize that it is the Holy Ghost who is the real teacher and witness of all truth. Those who do not fully understand this either try to take over for the Holy Ghost and do everything themselves, politely invite the Spirit to be with them but only in a supporting role, or believe they are turning all their teaching over to the Spirit when, in truth, they are actually just “winging it.” All … teachers have the responsibility to teach “by the Spirit.” They should not teach “in front of the Spirit” or “behind the Spirit” but “by the Spirit” so the Spirit can teach the truth unrestrained. …

The Holy Ghost teaches individuals in a very personal way.

Matthew O. Richardson, second counselor in the Sunday School general presidency

How can I receive personal revelation?

The way to receive personal revelation is really quite clear. We need to desire to receive revelation, we must not harden our hearts, and then we need to ask in faith, truly believe that we will receive an answer, and then diligently keep the commandments of God.

Following this pattern does not mean that every time we ask a question of God, the answer will immediately appear with every detail of what to do. …

Most often personal revelation will come as we study the scriptures, listen to and follow the counsel of prophets and other Church leaders, and seek to live faithful, righteous lives. Sometimes inspiration will come from a single verse of scripture or from a line in a conference talk. Perhaps your answer will come when the Primary children are singing a beautiful song. These are all forms of revelation.

Barbara Thompson, second counselor in the Relief Society general presidency

What should I look forward to in Relief Society?

One of the Lord’s primary purposes in organizing the Relief Society was to give the women the responsibility to help each other prepare “for the greater blessings of the priesthood found in the ordinances and covenants of the temple” (Daughters in My Kingdom: The History and Work of Relief Society [2011], 131).

[You] should also know that the sisterhood of Relief Society can provide a place of safety, refuge, and protection. As our times become ever more difficult, the faithful sisters of Relief Society will help protect the homes of Zion from the shrill voices of the world and the predatory and provocative influence of the adversary. And through Relief Society, … the influence of righteous women can bless many more of our Father’s children.

Julie B. Beck, Relief Society general president

What if I don’t feel worthy to pray?

There is a risk that a person may not feel good enough to pray. This idea comes from that evil spirit, who is the one who teaches us not to pray (see 2 Nephi 32:8). It is as tragic to think we are too sinful to pray as it is for a very sick person to believe he is too sick to go to the doctor!

Elder J. Devn Cornish of the Seventy

Why does God allow bad things to happen to good people?

Among the most frequently asked questions of Church leaders are: Why does a just God allow bad things to happen, especially to good people? Why are those who are righteous and in the Lord’s service not immune from such tragedies?

While we do not know all the answers, we do know important principles that allow us to face tragedies with faith and confidence that there is a bright future planned for each of us. Some of the most important principles are:

First, we have a Father in Heaven, who knows and loves us personally and understands our suffering perfectly.

Second, His Son, Jesus Christ, is our Savior and Redeemer, whose Atonement not only provides for salvation and exaltation but also will compensate for all the unfairness of life.

Third, the Father’s plan of happiness for His children includes not only a premortal and mortal life but also an eternal life as well, including a great and glorious reunion with those we have lost. All wrongs will be righted, and we will see with perfect clarity and faultless perspective and understanding.

Elder Quentin L. Cook of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles

Why can’t I do some of the things my nonmember friends are doing? They seem to be happy.

It may appear to you at times that those out in the world are having much more fun than you are. Some of you may feel restricted by the code of conduct to which we in the Church adhere. My brothers and sisters, I declare to you, however, that there is nothing which can bring more joy into our lives or more peace to our souls than the Spirit which can come to us as we follow the Savior and keep the commandments. That Spirit cannot be present at the kinds of activities in which so much of the world participates.

President Thomas S. Monson

In my seminary class we were told to write down a few questions we wanted answered during general conference. I’m so glad we did, because all of my questions were answered! A lot of the talks focused on how important the Holy Ghost is in our lives. I think it is a huge blessing to have the Holy Ghost, and I really want to start paying more attention to His guidance in my everyday life.

Katie M., 15, Texas, USA

When we pray for a desire to learn and put forth effort to get something out of conference, we can gain precious truths that will help us in our everyday struggles!

Brandon R., 16, Arizona, USA

Elder Tad R. Callister’s talk made me realize that when someone questions me about the Church, it could be because they view the Bible differently and don’t have the Book of Mormon, so they don’t have the same interpretation as me.

Cassandra H., 13, Alabama, USA

I took notes while listening to all of the speakers. I love doing this because I’m able to feel an added measure of the Spirit, and because of this I’m able to have amazing spiritual experiences and receive new revelation in my life.

Aaron F., 18, Virginia, USA

I felt that general conference has been spiritually edifying, because the General Authorities of the Church have such a positive attitude towards us and are always there to lift us up in comfort.

Sean F., 16, Illinois, USA

The Apostles love us because they know who we are and they know our potential. I hope to someday be as great as they are and have their faith.

Sariah W., 18, Utah, USA

There were many things I learned and felt at general conference—and some things I felt were directed straight at me. I am excited to continue to grow and learn in the gospel and prepare myself for life after high school, which is fast approaching. Our leaders are truly inspired men and women, and I am so grateful for their love for us and of the Savior’s love for me.

Victoria S., 17, Washington, USA