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My Spouse Is Incarcerated. What Do I Do Now?

“My Spouse Is Incarcerated. What Do I Do Now?,” Prison Ministry (2023)

“My Spouse Is Incarcerated. What Do I Do Now?,” Prison Ministry

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My Spouse Is Incarcerated. What Do I Do Now?

Every situation is unique, and there is no easy answer to this question. Decisions about your future are decisions God will help you make. Be prayerful, and talk with trusted friends and advisers as you make decisions. The following ideas may be helpful.

When a couple experiences separation, they must find new ways to connect and support one another. Taking care of each other’s needs will look different and may require more effort. Couples may try the following to keep their relationship strong:

  • Find ways to grow personally. Use this time of separation from your spouse to take care of yourself physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Study the scriptures and learn more about the Lord’s purpose for your life (see Philippians 4:13). Attend church meetings and draw close to trusted family, friends, and leaders for help.

  • Love your spouse. Let your spouse know that you care and that she or he is missed. Pray for her or him every day. Write letters, make phone calls, and visit your spouse if you can. Writing letters can help you communicate in a way that draws you closer and promotes healing. Keep your children informed of changes or improvements in your relationship.

  • Give encouragement. Your spouse may get discouraged while incarcerated. Show compassion and remind her or him of your love. Encourage your spouse to take advantage of any available classes and to take time to improve her or his life.

  • Offer spiritual support. Families can grow spiritually even while they are apart. Share your feelings and testimony about the gospel. Study the scriptures, talks from leaders, Come, Follow Me lessons, and Church magazine articles. Help your spouse connect with local leaders and progress through the repentance process (see Meetinghouse Locator). If phone calls are possible, include prayer or family prayer as a part of the phone calls.

  • Prepare for the future. Help your spouse prepare for life after incarceration. Counsel together and set meaningful goals. Establish a plan that includes ongoing spiritual growth, returning to the Church, employment, and ongoing recovery and change.

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