ʻOua ʻe Tuku e Ngaahi Talatupuʻa ko ʻení ke ne Taʻofi Koe mei Haʻo Mali
Kuo hoko e malí ia ko ha meʻa ʻoku ʻikai fuʻu mahuʻinga ki ha kakai ʻe niʻihi mo ha toʻu ʻe niʻihi. ʻOku fakatoloi ʻe ha kakai kei talavou ʻenau malí koeʻuhí he ʻoku nau lau ia ko ha fili fakatāutaha ʻo e moʻuí kae ʻikai ko ha konga ʻo e palani ʻa e ʻOtuá ki he fiefiá.
Ko ha ngaahi foʻi fakakaukau ngalivale ʻeni ʻe tolu ʻi he “teuteu ki he malí” ʻoku pehē ʻe Jason S. Carroll, PhD mo e palōfesa ʻi he School of Family Life ʻi he ʻUnivēsiti Pilikihami ʻIongí, ʻoku lahi hono tali lelei ʻi he māmaní.
1. Ko e Nonofo Fakamalí
ʻOku tokolahi ha kakai kei talavou ʻoku nau lau e nonofo fakamali kimuʻa he malí, ko ha “kiʻi sivi” ʻe siʻi ai ʻa e vete-malí. ʻOku ʻikai tuha ʻeni ia mo e sīpinga ʻa e ʻEikí ki he malí, pea kuo tala ʻe ha fakatotolo naʻe fai, ko e nonofo fakamali ko ia kimuʻa he malí, ʻoku kaunga lahi ki ai e ngaahi vetemali ʻoku hokó.
2. Ko e “Toʻo e Fakatamaikí”
ʻOku fakakaukau ha niʻihi ʻoku fie maʻu ke “toʻo [fakasekisuale] atu e fakatamaikí” kimuʻa pea nau toki nofo maʻu hifo. Kuo ʻasi ʻi ha ngaahi savea ʻoku iku e ʻulungaanga ko ʻení ki ha vetemali ʻoku lahi angé. ʻOku hanga ʻe hono tauhi ʻo e vā fakasekisualé ʻi loto he tukupā kakato ʻo e nofo malí, ʻo ʻomi ha nofo mali ʻoku lelei angé.
3. Ko e “Motuʻa angé ko e Lelei Angé Ia”
ʻI he sosaietí, ʻoku fakaʻau ke lahi ange ʻa e taʻu motuʻa ia ki he malí, pea lau leva ʻe he kakai kei talavoú ia e malí ko ha mole kae ʻikai ko ha tāpuaki. ʻOku nau pehē ko honau taimi kei talavoú, ko ha taimi ia ke fakatefito pē ʻiate kinautolu mo ʻenau fie maʻú. Ka kuo lahi ha ngaahi savea kuo fakamatalaʻi ai ʻa e ngaahi lelei fakaeloto, fakaesino, fakaʻekonōmika mo fakasekisuale ʻa ha nofo mali tuʻuloa, ʻoku fai ki he fakafoʻituituí mo e sōsaietí fakalūkufua.
Ko e lelei tahá ʻa hono fakaʻaongaʻi e sīpinga ʻa e ʻEikí ki he teuteu atu ki ha nofo mali ʻoku anga-māʻoniʻoní pea mo fakamālohia ʻa e fāmilí, ko e tefitoʻi ʻiuniti mahuʻinga taha ʻo e sosaietí. Ko hono akoʻi mo paotoloaki ko ia ha tukufakaholo ʻo e matuʻotuʻa moʻoní mo e mateuteu ki he malí, ko e ongo meʻa mahuʻinga ia ʻo ha nofo mali ʻoku leleí.