“Te Tau Lava Nai ʻo Fakamālohia Hotau Vā Fetuʻutakí?” Ko ha Lea Fekauʻaki mo e Ngaohikovia ʻi he Leá mo e Fakaelotó,” Liahona, ʻOkatopa 2024.
“Te Tau Lava Nai ʻo Fakamālohia Hotau Vā Fetuʻutakí?” Ko ha Lea Fekauʻaki mo e Ngaohikovia ʻi he Leá mo e Fakaelotó
Kapau ʻokú ke foua ha ngaohikovia ʻi he leá pe fakaeloto, fekumi ki ha tokoni. ʻE lava ke fakafehokotaki koe ʻe ha ngaahi kaungāmeʻa, fāmili, kau taki ʻo e Siasí mo ha niʻihi kehe ki ha ngaahi maʻuʻanga tokoni ʻe tokoni atu ke ke ongoʻi malu ka ke lava ʻo moʻui pea manatuʻi ho mahuʻingá.
Naʻe toe mali ʻa Sēneti (kuo liliu e ngaahi hingoá) ʻi hono taʻu 71. Naʻá ne lolotonga ʻeveʻeva (honeymoon) mo hono husepāniti foʻoú ʻi he taimi naʻá ne ʻita ai ʻia Sēnetí. ʻOku manatu ʻa Sēneti ʻo pehē, “Kuo teʻeki ai ha taha ʻe lea pehē mai kiate au.” Naʻá ne loto-mamahi mo ilifia.
Ne ʻalu pē taimí mo e fakalalahi e ʻita hono husepānití. Naʻe iku ʻa e kaikailá ki he kapekapé, ui ʻaki ha ngaahi hingoá, mo ha ngaahi lea fakataautaha fekauʻaki mo e ngaahi ʻulungaanga ʻo Sēnetí. Naʻá ne pehē ʻoku fakamahuʻinga ange ʻe Sēneti hono ngaahi kaungāmeʻá mo e fāmilí ʻiate ia.
ʻOku pehē ʻe Sēneti, “Naʻe ʻikai ke moʻoni ia. Ka ke tauhi ʻa e melinó, naʻá ku fakamamaʻo ai meiate kinautolu. Naʻe kamata ke u kaniseli ha ngaahi palani mo hoku ngaahi kaungāmeʻá. Ne u tala naʻe ʻikai ke u ongoʻi sai.”
ʻOkú ne pehē, “Neongo pe ko e hā e meʻa te u faí, naʻe ʻikai feʻunga ia kiate ia. Naʻe kamata ke u tukuakiʻi au ʻi heʻene ʻitá mo fakakaukau, ʻKapau pē ā naʻe ʻikai ke u fai ē pe ko ē.’ Naʻe kamata ke u fifili pe ko ha tokotaha kovi au ʻo hangē ko ʻene talamaí.”
Naʻe fai ʻe Sēneti kiate ia ha ngaahi fehuʻi hangē ko ʻení, “Kapau ʻoku ou mahuʻinga, ko e hā ne u fili ai e tokotaha ko ʻení? Pea ko e hā ʻoku ou tuku ai ke lea pehē mai kiate aú? Naʻe totonu nai ke u fakatokangaʻi ʻa e ngaahi fakaʻilongá?” Naʻá ne angaʻofa, tokanga, mo ʻofa ʻi he taimi naʻá na teiti aí.
ʻOkú ne manatuʻi, “Naʻá ku fuʻu loto-mafasia ʻaupito.” Naʻe kamata ke ne fakakaukau ʻe lelei ange kapau ʻe puke pea mate koeʻuhí ke ʻoua naʻá ne veteʻi ia. Naʻá ne ʻosi mali kimuʻa pea he ʻikai ke ne lava ʻo fehangahangai mo ha toe mali ʻikai ola lelei.
ʻOkú ne pehē, “Naʻe mei lelei kapau ne u talanoa ki ha taha, ka naʻá ku fuʻu mā ʻaupito. Pea naʻá ku ʻiloʻi te nau talamai ke u mavahe meiate ia. Naʻe ʻikai ke u loto ke fakangata ʻema nofo-malí pea naʻe ʻikai ke u toe fie nofo toko taha. Ko ia naʻá ku kei ʻamanaki pē ʻe liliu e ngaahi meʻá, pea naʻá ku kei fakatonuhiaʻi pē hono ʻulungāngá.”
Ko e Ngaohikoviá ko ha Angahala Mamafa Ia
ʻOku tali ʻe he kau mamahí ʻa e ʻulungaanga koví koeʻuhí ʻoku ʻikai ke nau fakatokangaʻi ia ko ha ngaohikovia. ʻOku hoko ʻa e ngaohikovia fakaelotó ʻi he taimi ʻoku feinga ai ha taha ke fakamamahiʻi ʻi he leá, puleʻi, pe fakalotoa ha taha kehe. ʻE lava ke hoko ia ʻi he founga ʻo e fakaanga lahi, tukuakiʻi, fakamāvahevahe mei he niʻihi kehé, fakalotoa, fakamanamanaʻi, ui ʻaki ha hingoa, pe taʻofi haʻate toe ʻofa ki ha taha. ʻE lava ke hoko ia ʻi ha faʻahinga vā fetuʻutaki pē: ʻi he feohi fakakaungāmeʻá, vā fetuʻutaki ʻi he teití, ʻi he vahaʻa ʻo e ongomeʻa malí pe mātuʻá mo e fānaú, pea naʻa mo e kaungā-ngāué.
Naʻe akoʻi ʻe Palesiteni Lāsolo M. Nalesoni, “ʻOku fakahaaʻi mai ʻe he ngaohikoviá e ivi tākiekina ʻo e filí. Ko ha angahala mamafa ia. ʻI heʻeku hoko ko e Palesiteni ʻo e Siasí, ʻoku ou toe fakamahinoʻi atu e ngaahi akonaki ʻa e ʻEiki ko Sīsū Kalaisí ʻo kau ki he meʻá ni. Tuku ke u fakamahinoʻi lelei atu: ko ha faʻahinga ngaohikovia pē ʻo ha kakai fefine, fānau, pe ko ha taha pē ko ha angahala fakalielia ia ki he ʻEikí. ʻOkú Ne mamahi pea ʻoku ou mamahi ʻi ha faʻahinga taimi pē ʻoku fakamamahiʻi ai ha faʻahinga taha pē. ʻOkú Ne tangi, pea ʻoku tau tangi kotoa ʻi ha faʻahinga taha kuo siʻi fakamamahiʻi mei ha faʻahinga ngaohikovia pē. Ko kinautolu ʻoku nau hokohoko atu e ngaahi ngāue fakalilifu ko ʻení ʻoku ʻikai ngata pē ʻi heʻenau moʻua ʻi he lao ʻa e tangatá ka te nau fehangahangai mo e houhau ʻo e ʻOtuá. …
“… ʻE ʻikai makātakiʻi ʻe he Fakamoʻuí ʻa e ngaohikoviá, pea ʻi heʻetau hoko ko ʻEne kau ākongá, ʻoku ʻikai foki ke tau tali ia.”
Ko e ngaahi foha mo e ngaahi ʻofefine kotoa kitautolu ʻo e ʻOtuá pea ʻoku ʻi ai hotau natula mo e taumuʻa fakalangi. ʻOku akoʻi kitautolu ʻe he ongoongolelei ʻo Sīsū Kalaisí ke tau feʻofaʻaki (vakai, Sione 13:34) pea ke feohi mo e niʻihi kehé ʻo hangē ko ia te tau loto ke fai kiate kitautolú (vakai, Mātiu 7:12).
ʻOku Faʻa Ongoʻi Halaia ʻa e Kau Mamahí
ʻE lava ke ongoʻi ʻe he kau mamahí ha ilifia, fakamāʻia, siva e ʻamanakí, pea hōloa honau mahuʻinga fakatāutahá.
Naʻe iku ʻa e mali taʻu ua ʻa Tieko ki ha fefine ngaohikoviá ki ha uesia fakaeloto pea fakakaukau ki he taonakitá. ʻI heʻene fakakaukau atu ki aí, ʻokú ne fakaʻamu naʻá ne tokanga ki he ngaahi fakaʻilonga fakatokangá. Kuo foua ʻe hono uaifí ha ngaahi mali mo ha ngaahi vā fetuʻutaki naʻe ʻikai ola lelei. Ka neongo ia, ne ola lelei pē ʻena kaumeʻa māhina ʻe onó, pea naʻá ne ʻofa ai.
Hili ʻena malí, naʻe ʻohovale ʻa Tieko mo puputuʻu ʻi hono ʻulungāngá. Te ne fai ha ngaahi fakamatala tukuhifo fekauʻaki mo hono fōtungá, pea ʻi heʻene ʻeke ʻa e ʻuhinga ʻo ʻene lea peheé, te ne talaange ko ʻene fakakata pē pea ʻoku ʻikai ke ne poto he tukuhuá. ʻOkú ne pehē, “Naʻe lahi ʻaupito e ngaohikoviá ʻi he leá mo e lea tukuhifó.”
Naʻe ʻi ai foki mo ha ngaahi ngaohikovia fakatuʻasino ʻi he taimi naʻá ne ʻanuhia ai hono matá mo ʻakahi mo vaku iá. Hangē ko e tokolahi ʻo e kau mamahí, naʻe feinga ʻa Tieko ke fakatonuhiaʻi ʻa e tōʻonga hono uaifí. Naʻá ne pehē loto pē ʻoku ʻikai ke ne maʻu ha ʻaho lelei. Naʻá ne feinga lahi ke fai ʻa e ngaahi meʻa naʻá ne ʻamanaki te ne fakafiefiaʻi hono uaifí.
ʻOkú ne manatu ʻo pehē, “Te u fakamaʻa mo feimeʻatokoni, ka naʻe ʻikai ke u teitei lava ʻo fakafiefiaʻi ia. Mahalo ko e ngaohikovia fakatuʻasinó naʻe kovi taha kiate au ʻi heʻeku hoko ko ha tangatá. Naʻá ku ongoʻi vaivai mo ʻikai haku mālohi. Taimi ʻe niʻihi ne u kumi ha feituʻu ke toitoi ai ʻi he ngāueʻangá peá u tangi ai. Ko au naʻe ngaohikoviá, ka naʻá ne ʻai ke u ongoʻi ko e meʻa kovi kotoa pē naʻe hokó ko hoku foʻui. Naʻá ku ongoʻi halaia. Naʻá ne moʻoni nai? Naʻe lahi fau ʻeku loto-mamahí.”
ʻOkú ne manatu ʻo pehē: “Naʻá ku fiemaʻu ke ola lelei ʻema nofo-malí. Naʻá ku lotu mālohi, ʻalu ki he temipalé, ʻaukai, lau e folofolá, mo feinga ke ofi ange ki he Tamai Hēvaní ʻi he meʻa kotoa pē. Naʻe fakamālohia au ʻe he ʻamanaki leleí. Naʻá ku kei tui pē kapau te u talangofua, ʻe lelei e meʻa kotoa.”
Ko e Kumi Tokoní
Fekumi ki ha mālohinga fakalaumālie: ʻE lava ke fekumi ʻa e kau mamahí ki ha ueʻi fakalaumālie mo ha mālohi fakalaumālie ʻo fakafou ʻi he lotú, ʻaukaí, ako folofolá, ngaahi tāpuaki ʻo e lakanga fakataulaʻeikí, mo e lotú mo e ʻalu ki he temipalé. Te nau lava ʻo maʻu ha tokoni mo ha poupou mei ha ngaahi kaungāmeʻa falalaʻanga, kau taki ʻo e Siasí, pe kau faifaleʻi fakapalōfesinale. Ko e mahuʻinga tahá, te nau lava ʻo tui ki he ʻEikí, fekumi ʻi he faʻa lotu ki Heʻene tatakí, pea falala te Ne “fakatapui ʻa [ʻenau] ngaahi faingataʻaʻiá ke hoko ko ha tāpuaki kiate [kinautolu]” (2 Nīfai 2:2).
Fokotuʻu ha ngaahi fakangatangata: ʻOku pehē ʻe he kau mataotaó ʻoku mahuʻinga hono fokotuʻu mo tauhi ha ngaahi fakangatangatá. ʻE lava ke pehē ʻe ha taha mamahi, “ʻOku ou ongoʻi ʻoku ʻikai ke ke fakaʻapaʻapaʻi au he taimí ni. ʻOku ou fie talanoa mo koe, ka he ʻikai ke u fai ia kae ʻoua leva ke ke ngaohi leleiʻi mo fakaʻapaʻapaʻi au.”
Ka neongo ia, he ʻikai fakaʻapaʻapaʻi ʻe ha kakai ʻe niʻihi ʻa e ngaahi fakangatangata ko iá. Naʻe feinga ʻa Tieko ke fokotuʻu ha ngaahi fakangatangata, ka naʻe kei fakakikihi pē hono uaifí. ʻOkú ne fakamatala ʻo pehē, “He ʻikai ke ke lava maʻu pē ʻo femahinoʻaki mo ha taha ʻokú ne ngaohikovia koe. Pea ʻoku faingataʻa ke te nonga ʻi he taimi ʻoku ngaohikovia ai kita ʻe ha taha ʻaki ʻene ngaahi leá. Mahalo naʻe mei mavahe ʻa Kalaisi ia pe folofola ʻi he leʻo vaivai. Naʻe ʻikai ke u haohaoa pehē. Naʻe mei lava pē ke u toe lelei ange. ʻOku ou tui ʻokú ke fiemaʻu ha fakalaloa—ko ha taki ʻo e Siasí pe ko ha taha faifaleʻi—ke fakahoko ha fealeaʻaki lelei.”
ʻE ala tokoni ke fekumi ki ha tokoni fakapalōfesinale ʻi he ngaahi tūkunga pehení. ʻE lava ke fokotuʻu atu ʻe he kau ʻetivaisa ʻoku nau ʻilo lahi fekauʻaki mo e ngaohikovia fakaelotó ha ngaahi founga ke fakaleleiʻi ʻaki e ngaahi ongo fakaeloto ʻoku fakatuʻutāmakí.
Tokangaekina e ngaahi meʻa ʻoku fai ki ai e hohaʻá: Ko e taimi ʻe niʻihi ʻoku ʻikai fakatokangaʻi ʻe kinautolu ʻoku nau lea ʻaki ha ngaahi meʻa fakatupu loto-mamahí ʻa e lahi ʻo ʻenau maumauʻi ʻa e vā fetuʻutakí. Te nau lava ʻo ako ke liliu ʻo kapau te nau loto-fiemālie ke fekumi ki ha tokoni. ʻI he taimi ʻe tonu fakaeloto aí, ʻe lava ke lea ʻaki ʻe he tokotaha naʻe fakahoko ki ai e ngaahi lea fakamamahí ha meʻa peheni, “ʻOku ou ongoʻi loto-mamahi [pe ʻikai ʻofaʻi pe taʻefakaʻapaʻapaʻi] ʻi he taimi ʻokú ke lea ʻaki ai e ngaahi meʻa peheé. Te u houngaʻia kapau te ke …” ʻE lava ke tokoni hono tala ke ʻilo ʻa e ngaahi ʻulungaanga ko iá ke ʻiloʻi ʻe he tokotaha ʻoku fakatupu loto-mamahí ʻa e meʻa ʻokú ne faí, ʻo ʻoange ai ha faingamālie ke ne fakalakalaka.
Kapau ʻoku loto-fiemālie ʻa e tokotahá ke fakafanongo, ʻe lava ke na maʻu fakatouʻosi ha tokoni. Te na lava ʻo fekumi fakataha ki ha faifaleʻi pea aleaʻi pe ko e ngaahi tōʻonga fē ʻokú ne maumauʻi ʻa e vā fetuʻutakí pea ko e ngaahi ʻulungaanga fē ʻokú ne fakamoʻui ʻa e vā fetuʻutakí. Te nau lava ʻo ngāue fakataha ke fakatupulaki ʻa e vā fetuʻutaki ʻoku nau fakaʻamuá.
Ka neongo ia, kapau ʻoku ʻikai fie fanongo ʻa e tokotahá pea hokohoko atu ʻa e ʻulungaanga fakatuʻutāmakí, ʻoku ʻikai fiemaʻu ia ke nofo ʻa e tokotaha mamahí ʻi ha vā fetuʻutaki ʻoku ngaohikovia ai ia. Ki he ngaahi hoa malí, mahalo ʻoku ʻikai ʻuhinga maʻu pē ʻeni ki he vete malí, ka ʻe lava ke ʻuhinga ia ki he māvahevahe kae ʻoua kuo tauhi ʻe he hoa malí ha ngaahi fakangatangata pau ke maʻu ha vā fetuʻutaki ʻoku leleí.
Feinga ke ʻoua ʻe hokohoko atu ʻa e ngaahi sīpinga ʻoku ʻikai leleí: Naʻe akonaki ʻa Sisitā Kilisitini M. Ī, ko e Tokoni Ua ʻi he Kau Palesitenisī Lahi ʻo e Fineʻofá ʻo pehē:
“ʻI he hala ʻo e fakamolemolé mo e fakamoʻuí, ʻoku ʻi ai ha fili ke ʻoua naʻa fakatolonga ʻa e ngaahi sīpinga pe vā fetuʻutaki ʻoku ʻikai leleí ʻi hotau fāmilí pe ʻi ha toe feituʻu pē. Te tau lava ʻo fakahaaʻi kiate kinautolu kotoa pē ʻoku tau lava ʻo tākiekiná ʻa e angaʻofá ko e fetongi ʻo e anga-taʻeʻofá, ʻofá ko e fetongi ʻo e tāufehiʻá, angavaivaí ko e fetongi ʻo e angamālohí, malú ko e fetongi ʻo e loto-hohaʻá, mo e melinó ko e fetongi ʻo e fekeʻikeʻí.
“Ko e foaki ko ia ʻo e meʻa kuo fakasītuʻaʻi meiate koé ko ha konga mahuʻinga ia ʻo e fakamoʻui fakalangí ʻa ia ʻoku malava ʻo fakafou ʻi he tui kia Sīsū Kalaisí.”
Fakamoʻui ʻi he Tokoni ʻa e ʻOtuá
Naʻe talanoa ʻa Tieko ki ha faifaleʻi ki he nofo-malí peá ne talanoa maʻu pē mo ʻene pīsopé. “ʻOku ʻikai ke u tui ne u mei ikunaʻi ʻa e aʻusia ko ʻení ka ne taʻeʻoua e tokoni ʻa ʻeku pīsopé, ko ha tangata ʻofa moʻoni. Pea naʻe hoko ʻa e temipalé ko hoku fakanongá.”
Naʻe fāinga ʻa Tieko ke fakafokifoki ʻene moʻuí hili ʻene vete malí ka naʻá ne pehē, “Naʻá ku ako ha meʻa lahi mei he vā fetuʻutakí pea kuó u tupulaki ʻi he tapa kotoa pē, ʻa ia kuó ne ʻai au ke u hoko ko ha tangata, tamai, tokotaha, maʻu lakanga fakataulaʻeiki, foha, kaungāmeʻa, mo ha hoa ngāue lelei ange. Naʻá ku fai e meʻa kotoa pē ʻi hoku mālohí ke ola ʻema nofo-malí, ka naʻe ʻikai. Naʻá ne maʻu ʻene tauʻatāina ke filí pea naʻá ne fai ʻene filí.”
Hili ha taʻu ʻe tolu ʻo e feinga ʻa Sēneti ke ʻai ke ola lelei ʻene nofo-malí, naʻá ne kole ke vete-mali peá ne hiki ʻo nofo fakataimi mo ha taha ʻo ʻene fānaú. ʻOkú ne manatu ʻo pehē, “Ko e ngaahi ʻuluaki ʻaho mo e uike ko iá naʻe faingataʻa tahá.” Naʻá ne tekaki hake hono lotó ʻi he lotu pea naʻá ne līʻoa ki hono lau fakaʻaho ʻo e Tohi ʻa Molomoná, fakataha mo ha ngaahi lea fakafiemālie ʻi he konifelenisí.
Naʻe hokohoko atu ʻene maʻulotú, talanoa mo ha taha faifaleʻi fakapalōfesinale, pea maʻu ha faleʻi fakalaumālie mei heʻene pīsopé. ʻOkú ne pehē, “Naʻe tokoni lahi ʻaupito ʻa e tokotaha faifaleʻí, pea naʻá ku ongoʻi lelei ange hili ʻeku talanoa mo ʻeku pīsopé.”
Naʻe fokotuʻu ange ʻe hano kaungāmeʻa ke ne lau maʻuloto leʻolahi ʻene ngaahi potufolofola manakó mo fakahā ʻa e ngaahi meʻa lelei kotoa pē naʻá ne fiemaʻu ʻi heʻene moʻuí. Naʻe fakahoko faivelenga ia ʻe Sēneti, ʻo ako maʻuloto ʻa e ngaahi potufolofola naʻá ne ueʻi fakalaumālie iá. Ko e potufolofola ʻe ua mei heʻene ngaahi potufolofola manakó ko e:
“Ke ke mālohi koe peá ke loto toʻa; ʻoua naʻá ke manavahē, pea ʻoua naʻá ke puputuʻu: he ko [e ʻEiki] ko ho ʻOtuá ʻoku ʻiate koe ia ʻi he potu kotoa pē ʻokú ke ʻalu ki ai” (Sosiua 1:9).
“ʻOua naʻá ke manavahē; he ʻoku ou ʻiate koe: ʻoua ʻe loto vaivai; he ko au ko ho ʻOtuá, te u fakamālohi koe; ʻio, te u poupou hake koe ʻaki ʻa e nima toʻomataʻu ʻo ʻeku angatonú” (ʻĪsaia 41:10).
Naʻá ne maʻu ha mālohi ʻi heʻene ʻiloʻi ko e misiona ia ʻo e Fakamoʻuí “ke fakamoʻui ʻa e loto-mafesí, ke malanga ʻaki ʻa e huhuʻí ki he kau pōpulá, … ke vete ange ʻa kinautolu kuo laveá” (Luke 4:18; tānaki atu hono fakamamafaʻí).
ʻI he fakamoʻoni ʻa ʻEletā Petuliki Kealoni ʻo e Kōlomu ʻo e Kau ʻAposetolo ʻe Toko Hongofulu Mā Uá ki he misiona faifakamoʻui ko ia ʻo e Fakamoʻuí ki he niʻihi ne ngaohikoviá, naʻá ne fakapapauʻi ange:
“Mei he uhouhonga ʻo e feilaulau fakalelei ʻa e Fakamoʻuí, ʻokú Ne foaki atu ʻa e ʻamanaki lelei naʻá ke fakakaukau kuo mole ʻo taʻengatá, ko e mālohi naʻá ke tui he ʻikai ke ke teitei maʻú, mo e fakamoʻui ne ʻikai te ke fakakaukau ʻe malavá. …
“… ʻOku vēkeveke ʻa e Fakamoʻuí ke foaki mai ʻa e meʻaʻofa ʻo e fakamoʻuí kiate koe. ʻI he loto-toʻa, faʻa kātaki, mo e tokanga faivelenga pē kiate Iá, he ʻikai fuoloa kuó ke lava ʻo tali kakato ʻa e meʻaʻofa ko ʻení.”